tigergirl, what you wrote is something I need to read over and over! Thank you very much.
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When it does feel or seem like someone is criticising how you do therapy; keep in mind they are only going on the little bit they've been told, on your interpretations at that moment and on their own experiences. There is so much more to the relationship than that and what works for you may not work at all for someone else. If you can remember things like your T cares, that she has your best interests at heart, that she is a skilled professional and that the relationship is a unique one between the two of you and nobody else .... then maybe it would be easier not to get pulled by what is unhelpful?
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jbmom: you didn't write too much at all!
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forget the professional aspect of it, just allow her love to touch you, so to speak, with hand holding you might be able to enjoy it then and maybe not so much pressure for you.
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That's good advice! Thank you. I'm allowing my feelings because my T tells me to be compassionate to all of my parts, but it's hard when I have such a strong reaction to her. I have to just say "I love her" and not try to figure it out. You're right. When I try to figure it out is when I get confused and embarrassed and overwhelmed. It is what it is.
hankster: thanks very much! What you wrote is very helpful.
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But some principles ARE tried and true, and "keep it in here" is one of them. T doesn't want you to burn out the angst or energy, she needs you to bring it in to her hot, like the horseshoe maker guy, what's that called? (I know you guys LOVE my examples!)
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