I have a problem and I’m not sure what I should do. Most of you probably already know me from some of my previous threads on this forum so I am not going write my entire history again but for those of you that don’t I’ll just say my girlfriend and my best friend of eleven years passed away when I was sixteen and I went through a lot of problems after that. I am currently in my first proper relationship since then with a girl named Mandy who I really love and hope to marry one day.

The problem is when I was mucking around with Mandy on the bed this morning I accidentally called her Jessica. She said it was alright when I said sorry but I could tell by the look in her eyes that she was upset and I hope I haven’t hurt her. I don’t know what I should do and I am worried about this. It has never happened before and I hope to avoid doing it again. How would you be feeling if your partner called you by the name of their former partner and what would you suppose they do to make it up to them? I could talk to her and say sorry again but that might upset her.

I never really thought about it that seriously until now but Mandy is similar in many ways to Jessica and that is one of the things that attracted me to her. She has a similar personality (she’s really kind, caring, smart and funny), we share the same connection at times and she looks like her too. In fact, when she saw an old picture of me and Jessica in my room she even she looked a bit like her and gave me a strange look but didn’t say anything else. I wanted to find a girl who was like Jessica and you can’t blame me for that. I know Mandy is her own person and I love her for that.