Thanks Gus. I started answering Byz's question with a long-winded dissertation on how when we hate ourselves we know that that is not "loving", but then what happens when we make a mistake and believe that's what good for us, gotta be good for the others, and it's not, and then I read your response. THANKS!!!!

I guess once I accept that it is not THEM that cause my problems, it follows that it is not I that create their problems. But the more I accept this, the more I chose to act with utmost considerate kindness that I am capable, and I am at loss how to explain that logically. (The lack of logical explanation does not bother me that much, though. It's like a bumblebee learning to fly: couldn't be bothered by the complicated explanations of how is that even possible, considering the wing surface, size and shape of the body, etc... Who cares, bzzzzzzz!)