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Originally Posted by roseleigh7
Was I just born with too much NEED? I feel like I NEED too much and I always have. I know that no one really gets ALL their needs filled from babyhood, but lots of people don't turn out so messed up like me. I feel hopeless. I think I can never get this hole inside me filled. No one can ever love me, let alone like me. I just want out somehow. I can't, CANNOT live with myself. It's too painful. I don't want to go to therapy anymore. Maybe I'm done with it? How do you know when you're "unhelpable?"
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There's no way to know when you're "unhelpable." If your T tells you you're "unhelpable" all that means is that s/he is unable to help you. And that it's entirely possible that another T WOULD be able to help you. The problem is to find that T. Which means you need to set a time limit with any particular T within which you have to make some progress that's obvious to YOU or it's time to move on. And then move on. And keep moving on until you find a T with whom you click to the extent of making real progress.
I know your situation. Believe me. But you CAN make yourself live with yourself until your quest is successful. Read some books about attachment theory. Keep trying to find the right T. When you do, life really will be worth living. And that will make up for ALL the horrible misery in your past. It's worth waiting for. Really. Take care.
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