Yes, I have thought about getting my own place. And I think my landlord knows that. I don't know what he can legally do about asking him to leave, though, I don't know what channels you have to go through for that. I also don't want to be the reason if he is asked to leave. I'm afraid he'll go even further off the deep end. The thing is the rent is really cheap here - I have my bedroom and my living room furniture, and it's really reasonable. There is also a back yard for my dog, and I want him to have that. If I could find something just as good, not much more expensive (I just took a pay cut for my new job), I would jump on it. The thing is, I don't mind sharing with my upstairs room mate, though it is awkward sometimes and I do wish we had more space apart, but I don't think I could afford to live alone. It's also good to know that if something happened that I couldn't take care of my dog, my landlord loves him and would take care of him. Thank you for the encouragement, though, I appreciate it.

I also would like to get a lock on my door, but I want the dog to be able to go in and out, or he keeps me awake. I want him to have as much room as possible as well. But I guess if it is a question of my safety, and my sense of security, I should consider it more seriously. I'm worried that he goes through my things. I'm also worried that he might go on my computer when I'm out, so now I have to lock it out when I leave the house. Maybe my landlord would let me make a doggie door - there's already a hole in it and he's going to get new ones eventually. This whole thing is making me incredibly paranoid.

Ah, thank you, now I don't feel so bad for wanting to report the cat's neglect situation or take it to the humane society! I have thought of it but I am so afraid it would tear him up, and I would feel awful doing that to him. I find it hard to draw the line. I know the cat is his responsibility, and I shouldn't have to check up on him. I'm not his mom. But I also can't stand the idea that something horrible is happening to the cat and no one is paying attention. I worry that if he moved out and got his own place, the cat would be hidden from the world and no one would know what was happening to it. I have to ask myself, if it was anyone other than him, would I have as much trouble reporting it? Probably not.

Part of his issue is that he was neglected and abused as a child. He raised his younger brother and sister while his parents were working odd hours or out. His little brother was violent. His mother is extremely emotionally manipulative (when he was little she used to threaten to harm herself unless he did things). For a while when he started working full time his mother was leeching money off of him as well. They didn't teach him a lot of things, simple things that most people take for granted, like proper hygiene. His teeth are rotting. He can't take care of himself let alone a cat, but he says he loves the cat and it is one of the few joys in his live. And I understand that it's hard for him, and he has to learn. But I don't want to be his guide, as much as I want to help him with this stuff, I don't want to be personally involved anymore. I have to stop taking responsibility for his issues, but I know he won't. This has gotten out of hand. I wish he would seek professional help on his own, and I don't want to be in this situation anymore. I have been avoiding him for a few months now. I wish he would move out