My husband and I have had a lot of ups and downs in our relationship. Between him joining the Army and getting deployed, and his drinking, things have not been the best. He recently started a new job, and I am proud of him for it, but the shift that he is working is killing our relationship. He's the type of guy that prefers to be awake at night, and it's hard because the kids and I barely every see him. It's very stressful. He wakes up at 2pm, gets ready for work, then leaves for work. He gets home at midnight when the kids and I are asleep, then he stays up all hours of the night, to sleep till it's time to go to work again. The weekends are no better. The kids and I wake up around 7, and he usually sleeps until 5 pm. It's sooo sooo frustrating. Then when I talk to him about it, he gets cranky and says that he can't wind down after work, so that's why he stays up. I, personally believe that if he didn't sleep until 2 in the afternoon, he wouldn't we so wide awake after work. It's not fair to our children. They are both already complete mamas babies because of him being away during his years in the Army. He always said he wanted to make up for the lost time while he was away, but he is not doing that. He chooses sleep or video games over family time....I'm not sure what to do anymore, it's really taking a toll on me, and it's hard that the kids only want me. If he tries to hold our 9 month old son, he just sceams. That is my husband's own fault, he's not very hands on...ugh.....