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Sep 01, 2011, 01:13 AM
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Member Since: Mar 2009
Location: So Cal
Posts: 3,342
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Maybe AJ could buy an alarm clock, and be accountable for getting himself up in the morning. Then, it would relieve the stress and frustration off of your shoulders, as you would not feel the need to be responsible for whether AJ's life thrives or fails.
Maybe you could let AJ be responsible for AJ, so you could finally take care of yourself and cut through the co-dependent apron strings. All this time and energy you give up on AJ's life is time and energy you take away from yourself, and you can never get that time back.
How do you benefit from being responsible for AJ's life? What is it you get to avoid facing because you're too busy taking care of everybody else?
I don't think the question is whether she is psycho or evil. I don't think the question has anything to do with her. I think the question is what do you get out of taking care of AJ, is it doing more harm than good to yourself, and is it fair to yourself.
This girl....she is AJ's problem. Not yours. 
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