I guess what I have described above is really what's currently happening and that you are right it is not the whole story. He doesn't know what he would rather be doing - well he might but wont communicate that except to say that his life is not what he thought it would be. He is working in the field that the rest of his family is working in so there is pressure to stay in that field. Everytime something get difficult at work he wants to resign. I am starting to think it may be because he is not enjoying his field of work. At this stage he doesn't seem to want to make any long term plans for our relationship and is therefore not really accepting my proposal that he take some time off to assess what he career field he would like to go into.