Such a provocative posting! I'm just 2 yrs into my dx, so this is one of the still-very-raw-issues with me.

I'm also alcoholic, but that bears the caveat that at some point drinking was a choice. I hear/read some discussion about "environmental factors" in BP, but am not sure what to make of that.

I guess for me it comes down to: Which approach benefits me most towards getting better? Assuming responsibility, or forgiving myself of responsibility?

That seems to frame the issue better for me, but I'm still unsure what the answer--even just for me--would me. Any feedback will be welcomed. To me this is a vital question.