Thanks wisewoman.

I find it odd how when it comes to my situation I didn't see abuse... my T. had to drill it into my mind over and over-- I was abused as a child and am still experiencing abuse presently.

--- The first time my T. referred to my past as abusive..... I couldn't believe it! I truly just thought I wasn't loveable. (not wanting any pity -- I just really thought that).
I'm now working on learning what is abusive and what isn't-- and feeling very clumsy I might add....... it may be simple for some to know such a thing..... but I don't think I got that hand out when I was growing up---

mandy