My t does some super great stuff to get me through his vacations. He will write me letters for every work day that he is gone. Sometimes he will leave me messages to listen to when he is away. I also have quite a few transition objects that he has given me. He knows that I have this developmental problem where when he is gone he is just dead and we start over like he is a stranger. Today he explained it to me like this. It is just like when you are a baby and you play peek a boo with your parents. The baby thinks their parents can not see them because there is a blanket covering their view but really the parents are still there and haven't left. He tells me he still cares and thinks about me and that he is going to come back and we talk about how I can soothe and comfort myself when he is gone and he asks me to write him letters to stay connected. When he comes back I am instantly pissed at him. I always act out. I don't mean to and I am aware of it and we are working really hard to change my behavior. Ohhh it is so tough.