That's what I told T at the very beginning. I told her that I'll be telling only lies Not that I want to lie but that there's no other way I can tell the story. You see, my memory is poor, my interpretation is wrong, my emphasis is skewed, my emotions are reactive. I will have selective memory and I will give people motives that are not true. In other words, everything I share in session with T is a lie. That worried me a lot - a lot.

But what I understand now is that slowly slowly the understanding comes about our own emotions. It almost doesn't matter what's true and what isn't because we're not sitting in judgment on other people. We are trying to figure out what's going on with us.

My T once told me when I was struggling with a problem with a person. She said, "that problem will resolve itself. What' more important is what's going on with you."

And so what has happened is that my historical reactions and responses are getting played out with T now. That's what's so cool about therapy and attachment to T. We can't help but project our issues onto them and then the issues become clear and real and in the present moment and easier to address.

So, I'd say not to worry too much about what you say in session about other people. It really doesn't matter and your T will be more interested in how YOU feel, not how other people may be behaving.