Thanks. Trust me I know the law very well. I'm a criminal justice major. I know rules and regulations. What's criminal, negligent and whatnot. I agree..and sometimes I do get up and walk away when things get heated and I know she won't follow through. I know "No" is no.The thing is. She isn't saying no I don't want to have sex. I'd totally respect that. There are times where she has said that and same with me and we respect that. I'm not one to like need sex every night and if I don't get it I'll be pissed. That's wrong. I just know that when we're heated and things get hot and she doesn't follow through it's not because she doesn't want sex..it's just because she's shy to initiate. She does want sex in these "moments" Trust me, I know she does haha. But she just doesn't pull through. I'm always the one to usually start it or show some passion or emotion. She's been working on it though and I saw some change last time I saw her. So all in all when the moment's right it'll happen that's all I need to know and believe in.

And usually whenever she'd say she's tired or lazy..which was really back in the day when our sexual problems were at a peak, she'd look at me and know she messed up. Because she'd still want sex. I'd still have sex with her but I'd just let her receive and then I'd try and fall asleep while turned on the whole night because I never received. It's not that she was tired so she didn't want to have sex at all completely in that moment. It's because she just didn't have the umph to give..like her arm was out of shape or something. I don't know how else to explain it ahaha. I started lifting weights because yeah fingering is a workout..and I had never known because I had never been a giver ever in a relationship. So mid-sex..yeah my arm feels tired and I feel like I can't go all the way, but I always do. Your arm gets stronger every time you give it a go. And lifting weights definitely made me more stronger to be able to have better sex. Well working out in general helps.

But yeah. Now I handle it where...if she starts to touch me or do anything minor sexual..I usually get up unless she does follow through. Because I can't just be "fooled" around with. The thing is I love spontaneous sex. So sometimes, asking whether she'll follow through or not ruins whatever spontaneity there was.