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Old Sep 03, 2011, 12:08 AM
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Originally Posted by BlessedRhiannon View Post
I think, in this you may just have to trust your T to call you on avoidance behaviors if she sees them happening.

With my T, I told her upfront that some topics are especially hard for me, and I know I will avoid them. I asked her not to let me avoid them, and she's managed to bring them up even if it's just for 5 minutes in every session. Maybe you could ask your T to do something similar. Or, maybe you could ask your T to help guide you in to discussing some of the topics you think you might be avoiding.

I too am experiencing the many irons in the fire feeling, and I do wonder sometimes if I'll ever manage to fully address everything and if I'll ever be "done." It's something I've decided I need to bring up with my T.
My T said that she would look out for my avoidance, and brings these things up in session. She wouldn't allow my to keep avoiding. But I still feel like it is my responsibility that I don't avoid these things. I don't know how to keep myself from avoiding things. They are SO hard to talk about. I feel like I'm failing in T.