Normally I would not have a problem with my desire to make everyone happy...but.......here lately it seems to interfere with my family. My whole entire life I have had the strong urge to feel accepted by everyone in my life....classmates, friends, co-workers, bosses, school officials or anyone in my life. Because of this need to be accepted I have developed a need to befriend everyone even at my own expense. I go entirely out of my way just to do favors for other people. To the extent I take care of one of my employees finances. In the summer when school is out I have like a million of the kids friends here cause their parents know they will be taken care of. I always and will always go above and beyond the call of duty to do for others. Sometimes this causes problems for my husband because it will take away from "our" time because I am running errands for a friend. Or I'm working late cause I know my job HAS to be done (even though I could finish up tomorrow) or he wants the house quiet and we have 10 kids running around.

My question is (well I have 2) recently I had a couple of friends tell me they think I do all the things I do so I feel better about myself. Like I know feel I'm worthy. If I feel needed and take everyone on as my charity case then I feel important. I'm not all for sure about that and if it is true whats the harm? I feel good about me and in the mean time I helped someone out.....right?

2nd Question. We recently found out my 17 year old stepdaughter is pregnant. I automatically want to jump in and help. My friends are about 50/50 some say I just need to make her figure it out on her own. The others agree with me and say she is going to need help through this difficult time. I'm just torn because I want to do the right thing. So I ended up analyzing how much I do for others recently to try to justify me wanting to help her so much.