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Old Sep 03, 2011, 06:28 PM
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Originally Posted by hankster View Post
See, why does a NORMAL person (a T) interpret the first statement to mean the second? How do they make that jump?!
I think it's because my T knows me so well and can "hear" the subtext of what I say, and he also knows that I am not very good about knowing what my own feelings are or expressing them (because I don't like to be vulnerable). As soon as he said that he missed me too, I realized I had missed him, and I smiled to know he knew this before I did.

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Originally Posted by hankster
No, not really - just pointing out what he was saying was reciprocal, but maybe not necessarily indicative of truly missing.
It actually didn't seem reciprocal to me (he gave more than I did in the interaction), but when he said he missed me I absolutely believed him. He is very genuine and I could see in his face and hear in his voice that he missed me. That helped me realize I missed him too. He's a wise guy, my T.
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