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Sep 03, 2011, 09:22 PM
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Member Since: Aug 2011
Location: Muskegon, MI
Posts: 64
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Shez....I just wrote you a HUGE reply....and I mean, HUGE - and I actually deleted it. I'm not in a "positive" frame of mind to do it again, as alot of things are bothering me tonight. Overall, it said how happy I am to become your friend and how much I admire you for the work you have done, and continue to do, with the elderly. I know that I have a "fit" in this area also, I just have to get things with my folks situated (I'm afriad I'll be losing them before too long and this scares me to a point I cannot talk about in this forum). I have alot of love and compassion that should not sit in my heart and not be shared...that is a waste of God's gifts to me. Hiding in my room, (that has not began a clutter issue) 24/7, is not the answer.
Also, I'm sorry that I didn't post to you sooner. I've been trying so hard to reply to each person who comments, but being new, I'm having trouble keeping up. I went through these Alzheimer's threads and was sure that I had written to each and every one of them. I apologize for my insensitivity...didn't mean to seem rude.  I'm trying to learn about subscriptions and such to see if that might help me to not miss anyone...hope people will be patient with me.
Dad had a really sad day seeing Mom today. She was really happy to see (and the cookies he always brings her) and willingly accepted his hug and kiss. They chatted awhile, but then she began her "on and off" routine about -- you're not my husband, I don't love you, I don't want you to kiss me, etc. When he went to leave she wanted nothing to do with him....not even a little kiss to say goodbye. She just shuts him out of her life. He is heartbroken and I don't know what to do. It really hurts because when I go to see her she is very happy and positive. She loves me to rub her hands and her back, she says I love you all the time, she smiles and talks (although it's about the same thing over and over) and we always depart with smiles, hugs, come back soon, I love you's, etc. When I come home, my Dad wants to know how things went, so I tell him. Now, when he goes, he gets this. Sometimes my Mom gets "mean" with me, but not too often. I'm not sure what to do. They always were a happy and loving couple...I don't know why she is doing this to him. Any ideas how I might help my Dad? I truly believe that by year's end, he is going to die from a broken heart. He is not well to begin with, he's losing weight, not eating well, doesn't care about much, wants to dies and will not seek counseling (even though my couselor has just the right person (she thinks) ready to see him. I think he's in the slow "s-word" mode, but when I talk to him he says he's not because it's against his religion. I think differently. I'm in my "I don't care mode"...with the exception of the people and dog I love....so I don't know. I just wish the world would end really soon. Thanks for caring, my dear.
Special Blessings ~
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