I am a lot older than you and I still battle with leaning on my ex too soon after a breakup. He may come around with some space and time. Some of my best friends are exes but it took a little while to get there. It is very confusing and charged when you are vulnerable with someone you've been intimate with.

I wish I had known when I was your age how many resources there were for young people in my community. I of course don't know where you live or how old you are but if you are under 21 try calling a youth hotline. They will listen and might know some resources form you and your mom.

I take breakups hard and any upset that happens right after gets magnified four times. It will get better. Try to distract yourself from your ex's rejection and focus on more neutral sources of support for right now. And do not be afraid to check out some battered women's shelters, they can be a really wonderful safe place to stay so that you and your mom can work out your next steps rather than needing to find a place to sleep for the night.

S.