Jo, Im the same way but Im learning to say no. My T says saying no can be very empowering. And this weekend I discovered he was right.

About the stepdaughter, I would definately jump in...I mentor/counsel teenage mothers and Im sure this girl needs someone with a big heart like yours.

At 17, there is so much you dont know....I was 17 when I got pregnant the first time and I lacked the confidnce to know I would be a good mother. I thought becasue my mother abused me I would abouse my daughter so I put her up for adoption. I had another gierl since themn and it turns out Im an unbelievably great mother...you dont know what crazy stuff is running around in her head. It cant hurt to talk to her and let her know youre there..