Hi sloppyjo

The only time that the giving to/helping others could be bad is when you sacrifice yourself to the point where you're no longer putting yourself first, and suffer as a result. (BTW, I'm guilty of that, learning how to put yourself first is HARD work!)

As for the question about your daughter, (I'm 19) if I was going through such a difficult time like your stepdaughter, I'd welcome some help. Thats just me mind you, but a little bit of help never hurt anyone (IMO!)