Suffering people will often shove their burden off onto someone else, either through ignorance of how to cope with their own problems, selfishness in not wanting to do the work it takes to become a decent human being (or for other reasons.) One of the components of loving others is not encouraging them to sin. Why have you chosen to minimize the harm people do to others by choosing the word 'bothersome'? Considering your interest in words, it seems your choice of word was deliberate, but why that one?