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Old Sep 04, 2011, 11:26 AM
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Originally Posted by 3rdTimesTheCharm View Post
Blah, blah, blah, insert a whole bunch of lame philosophic chatter about the importance of not being judgmental, probably the same speech he gives when clients tell him that they hoard cats, have affairs, or sniff other people's shoes at parties. He adds something that sounds like, the only way to change this is to decide to heal.
Anne
Oh, I can relate to this. When my T starts spouting what I call psychological cliches and psycho-babble, I tell her that I could say the same things, probably better than her. In fact, I could probably present a excellent dissertation that would blow her away how well I can present the same 'lame' ideas. I guess my sarcasm gets out of hand when she does that with me.

I guess I also want more than a calm soothing reaction. Maybe it doesn't feel 'real' when they do that. Maybe we're thinking it's a well-rehearsed act that they have down pat. Why can't they join us in our rage, our horror and validate it somewhat? Why do we want that validation? Maybe because it's how we feel now and when they don't express some kind of emotional reaction, it's like they don't 'get' it.

But like others have posted, that's probably not what we need. idk