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Originally Posted by farmergirl
First, what we want and what we need tend to be two entirely different things when it comes to healing, from my experience. If our T's give us what we "want", most of the time we won't make any progress because they will just be enabling our old patterns of thinking and behavior. In fact, I'd pretty much say my T almost never tells me what I "want" to hear.
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I do grasp this at an intellectual level. I think at an emotional level, I feel that I "deserve" to get what I want. "You know how I have suffered," I want to remind him, "and how there is so much in my life where I have not gotten what I want." And besides, how freaking hard would it be to just agree that you are horrified?
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about your sons. They sounds like great people and you sound proud in the knowledge that you have done right by them. My son is a great little guy and amazes me with his strengths every day, and I hope that one day I can have the more confident perspective that you have.
Anne