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Originally Posted by skysblue
I guess I also want more than a calm soothing reaction. Maybe it doesn't feel 'real' when they do that. Maybe we're thinking it's a well-rehearsed act that they have down pat. Why can't they join us in our rage, our horror and validate it somewhat? Why do we want that validation? Maybe because it's how we feel now and when they don't express some kind of emotional reaction, it's like they don't 'get' it.
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There's a lot there in that paragraph you wrote. I didn't really feel soothed by what he said, even though he was calm. He didn't indicate, like he usually does when I'm distressed, that what's lying underneath my reaction is something to be distressed about. It was more like yeah, that can happen.
But yes, what you said about he didn't get it, I think that is what I reacted to in asking "why aren't you horrified?" Don't you get how awful this really is?
IDK, the more I try to wrap my head around it, the more confused I feel.
Anne