Rapunzel, can you cultivate more friendships outside of your home life? Then stay where you are with your landlady, but keep the greater boundaries she desires, and have other friendships to fulfill your need for social life and to not be alone? It can be hard for a roommate to serve all of one's social needs (likewise, a spouse).

If you don't have friends now, could you take a class here and there to meet more people? (I'm a fine one to talk as I have very few friends and zero social life--but I'm mostly OK with that.) Your landlady seemed to want more space at home but if she goes out to hobby groups, she wants others around during those activities. Why don't you strike a balance and go to some of the same groups she does and cultivate some new groups or friends too? Maybe strive for going to only half of the same activities she does? It doesn't sound like she said she never wants to see you in any context again, just wants greater privace in her home.

Please don't jump to conclusions that your "toxic aura" caused your landlady's asthma to worsen. She likes to keep to herself and she also has asthma. No need to add any cause and effect in there. It's hard enough to have someone change boundaries on us like that without adding to the hurt feelings by thinking we caused more difficulty than we did.

Are you allowed to go upstairs to hang out there without interacting with the landlady? Like can you go in the kitchen to cook, eat, sit at the table and read the newspaper? Or in the living room to watch TV? It seems like it would be hard to confine yourself to one room only just to ensure you don't encounter the landlady. If you do encounter her, can you just nod and say hello, but not have to retreat to your room? (I'm not sure what your rent agreement is--if you will have full access to the house or just your bedroom?) It just seems since she has set stronger boundaries it might be easy to overreact and assume "I'm not allowed to see her at all" when that is not the case.

I hope someday you can live again in a place you can have animals with you. I have 2 cats and I love their presence.