I havent been 'diagnosed' with NPD. Maybe I dont have the full disorder but I feel I display some traits of the disorder. I could be mildy narcissitic (if thats possible). I havent abused anyone, infact most people say I'm a nice guy. But, I would like to change my controlling behaviour and to stop feeling that I am better than certain people for whatever reason. I either accept of reject people for no real valid reason. If I accept them I become very friendly with them but if I reject them I don't give them the slightest thought. For example, their is a girl at my works, who comes across as emotionally weak and has low self-esteem, I can see her flaws and I dont like them, so I just ignore her. Obviously my behaviour wont make her feel any better.

I know real self-esteem doesnt come from thinking you are better than others but respecting and accepting that even though everyone is different, we are all equal - I just need to drill this into myself on a deeper level!!