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Old Sep 04, 2011, 05:35 PM
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Originally Posted by PennyPal View Post
different therapists have different views and opinions and methods. if one doesn't work, maybe another can. it's like medication; they don't all do the same thing.

also, i agree with you. i think it was insanely unprofessional to cry about you terminating therapy. yes, therapists also have emotions, but seeing as it's a professional environment AND she is a therapist...well, that was wrong of her. i really do think you should look for someone else. female; male, it doesn't matter. what matters are their methods and ideas, and if they actually help you.
She never actually said she was upset because I was terminating therapy. But here's what happened. I told her back in Feb that I had to quit because at the time the therapy was stagnating and money problems, and when I told her her eyes went red as if she was trying to hold back tears.

The session later in March I said I had to quit and she said she understood because she knew I had money troubles. But then she broke down but quickly pulled it back together. When I asked her she was upset about it, she said no there's something in my eye and then when I pushed about the subject she made up another excuse. But she was shaking and tears came down her face. I'm not stupid, I can tell when someone's trying to cover up crying and when someone's got something in their eye. Now for me this was terrible, because yeah it wasn't ideal but I felt bad for terminating therapy.

This was not good because I did tell her a few sessions before that I did have sexual fantasies about her, but I felt at the time I was dealing with them well and could still move on. Now I feel that I have to see her. I have to see she's okay even really she most likely has forgotten about me and doesn't give a ****. But I promised I'd come back. I'm worried if I don't come back I may have destroyed her psychologically.

I'm resentful as well. I'm nobodies sucker yet I really am a sucker right now. She is a nice a person, but her reaction makes me feel manipulated. So on one hand I want to make sure she's okay on the otherhand I'm angry that she's made me feel this way.

That's because this is typical nice guy behaviour and I'm anything but a nice guy.