Being deaf I haven't found any one who will do EMDR for me, I've read they can adapt it by changing it to taps or in other ways, it's just where I live. I wish you good luck with that I've heard it gets very good results.

I have had what was called partial hospital, my reg T, a psych Doc and classes that just happened to be Soc and advanced psych classes. Just 2 classes and both in related fields! All at the same time and that was hard, it was hard just to stay awake, there was time to sleep, but it was hard to sleep, that was when I had the time to be quite and the stuff would come up and go though my head. I was exhasted all the time. It was easier back when I was younger and working full time at night as a CNA and going to the University durring the day, and having a social life sqeezed in the odd hours w/ bits of sleep.

I needed to use those tiny bottles of energy drinks just to stay awake though the groups.(I don't drink coffee-can't stand the smell) I don't know why working on this stuff is harder and takes more out of you than physical labor and school but it does. Families take just about as much energy, so I sympathize. What you are doing, it's hard. I wonder if you have talked to your wife about taking one day a week off. Maybe if you have a single friend who has room for you to bunk out for a day. Our if you have the money a room at an economy motel some time durring the week when its cheaper, but only if the kids are old enough or you have a friend who wouldn't mind stepping in and watching them for that day. Most married people know married couples.

Maybe you could work something out with another couple that they would take your kids after school on say tues or weds see that they get to school the next day. Then after you have finished the therapy, you and your wife could return the favor, that way you both get a night off. You could use it for the two of you or you both could use it to recharge separately. Journaling, walks, baths, boob tubes are good too! playing games, sex....but you both get a break and it would probably help a lot more than if just you had the break.

I can understand how you feel, no time to process all the info. The difference thogh is huge, living with a family and doing that means giving a lot back especialy w/ kids, they can't be expected to put their lives on hold. That has to be hard. My husband and I divorced a long time ago and my daughter is now 27 so when I was going though all that. My time at home was mine. The draw back was there was no one there when I could have used it. Haveing someone, a support is a really great bonus, and somthing to treasure. I did everything I could to save my marrage, but his drug use was just too dangerous. If it had been just me that would have been ok but I couldn't let him put our daughter in harms way. So maybe if you can find a way to just get one night it would help. I haven't been in exactly that situation, but I've had a family and I've had intense therapy and no time, so I can sort of imagine. The best of luck.