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Parenting skills, techniques, and theories are very personal. The one thing that is more provoking than religion and politics combined is parenting techniques. It is frustrating when someone dismisses what you view as a successful practice out of hand. I have raised four amazing human beings from birth to adulthood; three of them in service professions a therapist, a future police officer, and future teacher. I do not need an expert to validate my parenting skills. I have a very open loving relationship with all of my children and I am grateful for it every day. There is one thing that I have done right in my life without question and it is being a parent, I was far from perfect but I am an excellent parent. Our principles were simple: our children come absolutely first and everything was done with love. While the practices we have used to raise our children may not work for your child, the principles absolutely will. I openly accept and embrace that there are other ways to raise happy healthy children. Some people swear by the Ferber method, I find that approach barbaric. My SIL used this method and her children (now adults) are fine.
I asked the question: “What specifically do you find so disturbing?” I should probably have also asked “Why?” The question was not posed to be argumentative. It was meant to be thought provoking. Some things can be worked out, others cannot. Some situations you can just walk away from and some require you to do something before you leave. You do not have to answer these questions to me, but it would be a good idea to get an honest answer for yourself. Are you upset because this makes you uncomfortable or out of a genuine concern for the girl’s best interest? If it is the latter, how do you think this is negatively affecting her? Either way your feelings are valid, but it would be a good idea to know where they stem from.
The statement that he is overly affectionate and that he will do anything for his daughter at the drop of a hat as if it is a bad thing sounds very foreign to me. Can you elaborate?
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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