Hi Michele. If the doctor is a good one, he will not hurt your son's self-esteem. I understand "denying" he could have a problem, and maybe you were right to do so. I have seen kids ,who shouldnt have been , "classified" becasue the district gets extra funding for them. And you probably didnt want to have your son "labeled", which is perfectly understandable. I would have waited, too. I have ADD, and my daughter has ADD. We live alone together and we both forget everything, every morning, lol. But things are still OK!One thing I can say is try and build as much structure into his life as you can, for example, make sure the lunchbox is in the same place every day...if you can get him into habits it will help..one habnit at a time...slowly.
When I go to school I can always tell my daughter desk right away becasue it is the one that won't close with all the papers sticking out of it..We had homework problems because she kept forgetting to bring her books home. But we work on one habit at a time and that seems to be helping a lot..
If you dont mind me asking, how are things at home. Is he under a lot of stress? That seems to make it worse, when we have "other things" on our mind..
Dont panic, just take it one thing at a time...If the doctor suggests medicine you have time to think about it. Its possible its not necesary. My niece is on something, Ill find out the name of it, and she LIKES taking it. Says she feels better.Please let me know how the doctor visit went! And dont be so hard on yourself. Maybe part of the reason your short with him is just becasue youre worried for him. really, he's smart, he'll probably be just fine...