The most important matter in all of this is that you take care of you and be the person you want to be. I had the feeling that I was going to be beyond their reach affecting me so I survived and excelled. It's like the saying the only way to get even is to succeed. So be it abuse or whatever, you know, the fact is you have control over your behavior and goals. You can read up on the subject and do homework toward healing. In the end it doesn't matter who did what to whom, just what we have made of ourselves. I hope this makes sense to you. I guess I am saying prove to everyone that you are a GREAT survivor. Good luck.