I am 27, newly divorced, and a single mom of 2 small kids. I work and go to school full time. I left my husband because I put up with his verbal abuse,for 2years miserably,until one night he got physical and threw me against a wall. The next day the kids and I were gone. I filed for divorce 2months later.
6 months later I stayed away from men. Kinda wanted to heal from everything, and knew I wasnt ready for any type of relationship.
Well spring rolls around and I met a guy that was GREAT...at first. He was so different than anyone else I had ever met, but he never let his guard down. He did admit to me that he had emotional issues. And that he had to take 2 different antidepressants and one major anti-anxiety drug ...on a daily basis. He flat out told me:"Im broken" for some reason I was attracted to this? At first he came off as shy, sweet, intelligent, and just needed someone to make him secure to have him come out of his shell. I noticed "red flags " right off the bat. Like his obsessive gambling, arrogance, and the fact he preaches that he "respected" me but yet he cant hold a door open for me? Not to mention he has maybe taken me to dinner twice, and any other time...I paid for it. I HATE typing this . Because I feel SOOOO used. He isnt affectionate towards me at all... Like he wants me to go EVERYWHERE with him, but to get him to hold my hand, kiss me on the cheek, HUG me even...is like pulling Teeth! He says Im way to insecure , that I should just KNOW were together is good enough... WHAT?! yeah, I get that part, but I want to feel appreaciated,and wanted at the same time. If I bring this up, I "debate" too much and (like right now) he says he'll call me "sometime" and I dont hear from him all day. The sad part is I KNOW how much I have to offer to a relationship...and Im not a ugly girl. So why am I putting up with this?