My boyfriend is in a strange custody situation with his ex-wife who is a meth addict and he could at some point get custody of his daughter. My boyfriend feels that his daughter needs extra love and attention. He still sleeps in the same bed and she is 8 1/2 years old. I'm not worried that anything is going on sexually, but my teaching background and parenting make me diabolically opposed to this situation. I talked to him about it 6 months ago and said if he planned on getting custody of his daughter he needed to change this situation which he acknowledged that he would do that. We've been going out for 14 months and I got furious over it and approached him again about it to which he stated I am jealous. I stated that he needed to have a plan to transition this situation or I was going to end it. He said he had no plan on ending it. I told him to talk to his friend that is a child custody evaluator and a counselor to which he said he would get mixed responses so what is the point. I'm in a quandry here. I have talked to many people...professionals and friends and all of them have said it is inappropriate.

He is overly affectionate with his daughter and does anything for her at the drop of a hat and the sleeping thing is quiet frankly starting to creep me out. I'm not expecting him to all of a sudden start sleeping with me in the same bed if he transitions his daughter to her own bed, but it's getting to be too much for me. He thinks I'm jealous and blowing things out of proportion and his mother says there is no problem with this which I don't think her opinion counts for much as she raised her children poorly.

Any thoughts on this situation?