Excuse me then for being imprecise. I did not mean to apply any selfish motive, such as looking for thanks, but was trying to convey how kindness is kind for its own sake, in hopes that it may help you center yourself, and not be affected so much by people's reactions.

As to people not wanting to talk to you, they may have reasons of their own, nothing to do with you. Or maybe it is, from their perspective, "about you", but you have to realize it really is not. Imagine that I dislike some girl, because she wears a lot of makeup and speaks in high chirpy tones. Do you see how it is my judgment that's causing me to not like her? Someone else, less judgmental, may see the sweet kind soul of her.

It's a fact that not everyone will like you, no matter how hard you try. There is no point trying. When you are being good and they respond with badly, so be it. There is nothing you can gain by being pissed. Don't do any more favors for that person, that's all. But by becoming resentful, and bitter, you are losing chances of connected with people you may click better with.