Thread: A conundrum
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Old Sep 06, 2011, 12:57 AM
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Originally Posted by TheByzantine View Post
If my perception of myself leaves me feeling inadequate and the means I choose to deal with my sense of inadequately is to project it on my neighbor, my neighbor has a problem to deal with not of his/her making.
Byz, that's your neighbor's choice, though. This life isn't perfect. We all run into all kinds of problems. If you think that you, personally, are causing someone a problem, then put distance between you and that person. Take the high road.

I have a neighbor that deals with his trauma and inadequacy by loving himself far more that is normal, i.e., he's a narcissist. He has been causing me a lot of problems but I decided I'd had enough and I made him understand that he couldn't mess with me anymore (boundaries)... up to and including calling the cops on him. I doubt that he'll ever understand that HE is the problem, not his neighbors. I'm not his only target.

Blessings to you, Byz.
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