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then I found myself going over and over the email, deconstructing it...
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Do you feel like you were being obsessive about it?
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She suggested I call her, but I didn't. I feel like even emailing was a needy and selfish thing to do, and so I won't be contacting her again before our next appointment. I don't want to feel like someone is merely placating me - and that I'm dependent on them doing so.
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It is okay to need others!
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Reaching out is hard for me - maybe because a lot of times I have done, (mostly concerning my parents) I haven't got the response I wanted. I feel/fear rejection, I guess. I think the thing I want more than anything else is for someone to genuinely care enough about me to 'reach in'... (needy needy needy!)
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This makes total sense. If you haven't been getting the response you need from your parents no wonder it discourages you from reaching out. There are other people out there who can respond to you the way that you need them too so try not to shut the door? Does your T respond the way you need her to? You are not needy by wanting meaningful connection to others. This is SO normal.
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I don't know if I could post before I SI, though, I don't want to feel like I'm shifting the responsibilty on to other people to stop me...  |
Or maybe you don't want others to stop you?