I am going through a similar time with my ex husband. He has gone from saying he can't bear the sight of me to wanting to stay with me and the kids for 4 nights a week. I feel a mug but there is a part of me that holds onto hope even though I know he is so damaging to me. I just have to keep telling myself that I am ok without him. It is so hard and confusing though. Put your needs first and you don't have to acknowledge him or listen to his undermining / bullying comments. SD