I just want to add here that it is not unusual to have feelings of guilt and responsibility when looking back on events that caused some kind of violation on a sense of personal safety and sense of well being.

It is important to understand that when you are looking back you can see the whole event and the outcome of that event. When the event actually occured you did not have that opportunity of knowing the end result. So you truely have to take that into strong consideration and make sure you realize that at that time you truely were taken by surprise and did not know the outcome of the offense and that you were going to be placed in a situation where something happened to you and you did not see it coming, or you were in a social situation where you were challenged and did not know how to truely respond in a way that secured your sense of personal safety.

You truely have to be willing to understand that when these events occurred you just did not have the capacity to understand and deal with them and that does not mean that you are now forever doomed a failure.

By allowing yourself to open up to your own personal insecurities in a safe atmosphere you will slowly begin to understand that you are not alone in facing this kind of insecurity and that you "CAN" slowly learn how to learn new ways of finding a new sense of security.

I want to welcome you to PC and let you know that you are truely not alone and "I BELIEVE YOU", "I BELIEVE THAT YOU EXPERIENCED SOMETHING THAT WAS NOT FAIR TO YOU AND YOU DID NOT DESERVE THAT EXPERIENCE" AND "YOU ARE NOT ALONE IN FEELING LOST, TROUBLED, AND INSECURE WITH YOURSELF".

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