View Single Post
 
Old Sep 07, 2011, 07:06 PM
granite1's Avatar
granite1 granite1 is offline
running with scissors
 
Member Since: Aug 2009
Location: in my head
Posts: 15,961
Quote:
Originally Posted by just_some_girl View Post
I feel like I'm a traitor and a horrible person for even thinking this way (because I swear I do like and respect my T), but:
Do you ever feel like your therapist is just placating/pacifying you?

This thought occured to me as I was posting elsewhere, in response to an email I got from my T. I just felt like my email to her was needy, like a baby crying, and her response was like 'hushhhhh...it's okaaay...' (which, ironically, is kinda what I was after, so I don't know why I'm taking it like this: )

My initial reaction was that I found her words comforting, but then I re-read it and considered how carefully constructed it seemed. Like, the 'perfect' response.

I'm new to this therapy thing, and I felt it had been going well, but now she's on vacay - and this is coinciding with me hitting the first real low point since seeing her (prompted by my car accident the other day) and I guess I'm questioning everything... I realise I've been putting a lot of faith in my T being able to help me... but what if she can't? What if it's all carefully constructed responses and stock answers? Smoke and mirrors? New age woo? What if there are no real solutions to my problems?

Yeah, I guess I'm freaking out. A lot of mixed emotions right now. Is this the 'self-sabotage' aspect of my depression? Maybe it can be chalked up to 'abandonment' or 'attachment' or 'rejection' issues...

But anyway, regardless of my reasons for asking this question, I'm interested to hear your responses, no matter the circumstance.
i would really hope that my T would tell me what i need to hear not what i want to hear.i dont think my T would ever just tell me what i want to hear.she is way to upfront for that.i also dont think it would help me any
__________________
BEHAVIORS ARE EASY WORDS ARE NOT

Dx, HUMAN
Rx, no medication for that