My husband has also recently started speaking pessimistically about our marriage, and told me it's 50/50 whether we have a future together. I knew he was becoming depressed but I had no idea that male depression is so different than female depression, (I just researched it on the internet). He's expressing irritation/resentment/brooding hostility/hyper-critical and tells me I'm probably not able to change. He's seeing a therapist but he's not taking meds for depression. I'm not going to accept his requests or predictions of divorce because I love him. But it's very painful to be blamed for so much of his misery.