Yes, there are decent men in the world. You might not find them hanging out among the horrible ones, though. Try going back over the people you've dated and see if there is a common thread (besides the horribleness) -- have they all been too immersed in careers to want a steady? Did many of them say upfront "I don't want a steady"? Were they already dating several other people? I don't think the problem you are encountering is you so much as it is your choice in men. Take more time to choose and take everything very slow and really listen to what they say (and what they don't say). I went on a date with a man who made eyes and spoke very sweetly to the waitress; it was blatant. There was no second date (although I wished him well ... and her too, lol). Love yourself and think of yourself as too special to waste on the horrible. I hope this helps.