Ok guys, this one is going to be long. There's a guy in my meetings, and on the service committee I'm on. A few weeks ago at a birthday party we were talking and it came out that we both have an irrational fear of deep water. Through our talking, we've learned more and more that we have in common, uncanny things that we have in common. Cool right? Well, I was just trying to play it off...because he's in a relationship. He's in a very unhappy relationship. A relationship of convenience, because there's 2 kids involved. It's the old classic, staying together for the kids even though you're miserable with each other. The woman is a "normie" meaning non-alcoholic. He's coming up on 2 years sober. She's very resentful of all the time he spends on his sobriety, working the program, working with others, etc. Supportive of his staying sober, but not exactly supportive in what is required of that.....time and time and again they've had "the talk". Him telling her what he needs, how things need to change etc. Nothing ever changes but he hasn't had the courage to leave. One of the kids is his and the other is both of theirs. She favours the one that's hers...the first kid he had at 18 and the mother disappeared, so he's raised the first kid all alone. So....that's the background. We started talking online and sending texts messages back and forth, and I was just playing it off as making good friends. We discovered we even graduated the same high school the same year...but never knew each other. I started thinking back and noticing how I was drawn to him after meetings, thinking he was just a friend on the committee. Well...things have progressed. We're falling in love. We haven't done anything....just spent a lot of time together, talking, it's amazing how we relate to one another....I have NEVER felt this way, NEVER felt like I've waiting my whole life for this one person. He touches my hand and I feel it through my whole body. He finishes my sentances. He looks at me and knows what I'm thinking. I cannot describe to you how this feels. I've thought I was in love before, but now I KNOW. I feel absolutely complete when he's just near me. I feel lost when he's not around. Through our talks, he's realized that it's time to have another talk with her....he's realized that she'll never "get" him the way I do, because she's not an alcoholic. She can be supportive until she's blue in the face, but she'll never "get" it. So, as I type this, they're having "the talk". I have no idea what the outcome will be. All I know is that I want him to be happy about whatever happens...we've both talked to our sponsers, we both have a conscious contact with our Higher Power, I know that we'll be ok with whatever happens....but it HURTS SO MUCH.....we said goodbye today after talking some more and we knew it was the last time we'd see each other in the way it's been. Either he'll decide to leave and we can see what progresses, or they'll try and work on it yet again, and he and I will have an amazing friendship, and never ever forget this experience. He's taught me what it feels like to find that person....that person I've always wondered about, laying in bed thinking "what is "he" doing...who is "he"....".....now I know....what we have and what we have experienced is such a gift that niether of us will ever forget. So now I'm waiting. I'm waiting to see what God has in store for us. True love realized and relished, or true love realized and held back.....you know how they say you just "know"? I never understood that, because I never just "knew". Wow.....you really do just "know". I had to post this here. My pride was trying to keep from telling you guys this because I'm so afraid that you'll think I'm terrible. I didn't set out to fall in love with someone who has a life with someone else. I know in my heart that I am not the reason his life might make a drastic change. I was the catalyst, the trigger, the push. Of course I want it to work out in my favor, but at the same time I want them to work it out! Anyway....now I'm just waiting. Trying to clean up my apartment, watching romance movies on TBS. And going crazy....all I know for sure is that I trust in God, and I'm not gonna drink over this. Has anyone been through anything like this? Can you give me words of wisdom? I'm gonna post this in the Alcohol/Substance Abuse forum, but it fits here as well...and I need all the help I can get. Thanks in advance.

~Rayna