Both of you have made points that we've both discussed and considered. Oh, and they're not married. Yes, I have a sponsor and so does he, and we've both talked to them. The fact that I might be cause of hurt in all of this is something I have addressed in the steps. And so has he. We've also decided that if they do split up, we will not jump right into a relationship. We both understand that there is a lot of growing that has to be done on both sides. What it's boiling down to right now is what Sleeps said, "sometimes its just RIGHT and when it is....one has to GO FOR IT but know...it may be a time limited thing...can you do that ?" We know that we have all the time in the world to learn more....and we plan on taking all the time in the world. We've both definetly done the work, done the thinking, done the praying, done the writing etc. Ahhh, life is crazy!