i believe my husband has ADHD. our marriage councellor has told him that (her adult son also has ADHD), and so much of what i've read on the subject describes him so well. he gets defensive about it anytime it is brought up and doesn't believe that he has it. i'm not looking for something to blame our problems on, but really, when i look at what my biggest concerns are regarding our relationship, i see that they all tie into ADHD. He is always late, very forgetfull, very unreliable, always makes promises that he never keeps, can talk for ever, and also switches topics mid sentence. I can't rely on him to do anything. by that i mean, yes, he is capable, and yes, sometimes he does get things done, but more often than not, he doesn't therefore, i can't rely on him so i sit there and stress about it. there is no such thing as planning. i just sit back and see what unfolds. unfortunately, i can't continue to do this. we have 2 young children, and i'm returning to work full time, and i can't try to organize his life as well. i've been trying to, but he neither realizes how much i do, nor appreciates it, and he can't understand why i get frustrated, mad, sad etc. i'd like to make our marriage work, but this has been going on for 7 years, and i'm making myself sick from trying to pick up the slack. i'm also tired of him blaming me for things or telling me that i expect too much. i've actually learned not to expect anything from him, but that isn't really a happy way to live. help? please?