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Originally Posted by Salmacis
Thanks, Puzzcar! I have my mom on call right now... she's about an hour & 1/2 away... but I'm almost afraid she'd like to throttle my ex more than I would!! I'll be safe... probably too drunk to do anything proper now (a blessing & a curse). :-P
I definitely want to change... but my T insists I'm incapable of change until I stop drinking. Which I think is BS. I never ASKED to be taken advantage of. I'm just too generous for my own good & it pisses me off when it's not appreciated or reciprocated.
Anyway, if I call anyone now, it will have to be 911 & I'll be issued a 72-hour hold. Can't afford that... My mom (if I called her) would insist on the same. I have a slew of feral cats (and permanent indoor cats) that I am responsible for feeding 2 x day. Can't let them down...
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Hugs Salmacis...
Is there any way at all you can tell him to just go and stay with some other band members or friends or something for a few days to give you some space? maybe not move out THIS weekend, but just to get him out of your hair for a while?? Give him a deadline of next weekend to move his **** out and tell him to find some other place to land in the meantime? If he's not helping with rent..you have no obligation morally to keep him in cigs/food or anything else and maybe he'll go into debt with someone else?? Here's hoping!! Let him mope...if he's working he can pay you back and find his own place...I wouldn't enable his ***** any more than you have to..
Please stay safe and protect yourself..
WB
