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Sep 09, 2011, 07:00 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ~ You say your family is much LOUDER when they get together. Perhaps the "noise" is a trigger for stress -- and you're pulling back because that's the only way you know how to cope. When things get too "chatty" and voices become louder, I tend to withdraw too -- I cannot stand loud voices!!! I know that comes from when my Mom & Dad would fight -- they had some real doozies!!! So now whenever things get too loud, I escape. It's just my coping mechanism.
Also, talking to someone who is deaf is very difficult. Won't she wear a hearing aid? Trying to carry on a conversation with a deaf person can be frustrating because they don't have a clue what you said unless you YELL at them -- and no one wants to do that. Encourage her to have her hearing checked and perhaps get a hearing aid. You've probably already done this, but keep it up! Maybe she'll give in. LOL
I don't think you're trying to be controlling. I just think that's how you cope. Perhaps talking with a therapist will help. It surely can't hurt. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee 
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