i'm sorry that you're having such trouble right now. it is VERY frustrating to live with someone who doesn't listen to you but turns it all to himself/herself.

is there any way that you could see a therapist. i think it would be really good to have a person in real life to tell your feelings to. i don't suppose the hubby would go for couples counseling, would he? sounds like the daughter needs some therapy also.

i had the "step children" phase of life for 16 years and i know it can be, at times, hell. for one of the children, i was definitely the wicked witch. good luck, pat