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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi ~ You say your family is much LOUDER when they get together. Perhaps the "noise" is a trigger for stress -- and you're pulling back because that's the only way you know how to cope. When things get too "chatty" and voices become louder, I tend to withdraw too -- I cannot stand loud voices!!! I know that comes from when my Mom & Dad would fight -- they had some real doozies!!! So now whenever things get too loud, I escape. It's just my coping mechanism.
Also, talking to someone who is deaf is very difficult. Won't she wear a hearing aid? Trying to carry on a conversation with a deaf person can be frustrating because they don't have a clue what you said unless you YELL at them -- and no one wants to do that. Encourage her to have her hearing checked and perhaps get a hearing aid. You've probably already done this, but keep it up! Maybe she'll give in. LOL
I don't think you're trying to be controlling. I just think that's how you cope. Perhaps talking with a therapist will help. It surely can't hurt. Best of luck & God bless. Hugs, Lee 
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Thank you so much Lee. I really appreciate hearing your views. Funny that you mention chatty because as we were coming back home, I thought to myself the same thing: perhaps I'm just not good around chatty? All that conversation & all those words...!
I wondered if words at times just seem superfluous to me. I actually like chatty people because they fill up the silence sometimes, but I wonder how the hell they do it? What do they find to talk about for so long?? It's admirable! hehe
But no, something is triggering how I react & of course it's not ever simple. I have had psychotherapy in the past, which I've found helpful, but here in a foreign land I haven't quite got the resources to do this & in general I do feel more stable than I did when I was attending twice weekly. Still, opening this conversation & feeling open to talk about it here in PC I'm sure can only but help. I feel ashamed & selfish about how I feel/am, but know accepting & understanding it is the only way to move forward.
Thank you
