I know I have joked here. And this morning I posted to a thread and it suddenly dawned on me what motivates me to click on a thread. And to be honest, up until this suggestion I had not really thought about how to present a thread and maybe using a catchy title to draw in comments. And Ygre23, it was interesting to see how your mere suggestion was contemplated and there were a lot of different reactions to that suggestion, including my own.

And I didn't think it was a paticularly offensive suggestion that you presented.

But your thread took a turn and "YOU" were the one that turned it. And I did cite that turn. And I sited that because I felt your comment was uncalled for and a simple suggestion became a statment of judgement about how people respond to threads and how they post.

And because it is your thread and you did add that to "YOUR" thread I want to really comment on it, give you my opinion of your statment. And after thinking about it more this morning, I realized a few things.

Personally, when I came to PC I was in such a personal emotional battle that the only thing I wanted was a place to find support. I was very lonely, very scared and very confused. And, in no way did any kind of catchy thread title enter my mind in any way, I was not in any condition to think about that. And I have to say that a lot of people that are new here are often desperate, lonely, frightened and very lost. And in almost every attempt at asking for help and guidance there is some form of an appology. And in my first days here I was really moved and I saw a lot of sadness and cries for help. And I didn't really know what to think, and yet I was one of those cries.

And one of the things that I wanted to see was why I was so misunderstood and why was I in the place or state of mind I was in. And the only thing I could think of was to just put myself out there and see what kind of response I got. That was really my personal way using PC. So I made attempts to just be me as much as I could, given my intense condition of battling and trying to understand the severe case of PTSD that I had. And I was struggling to even understand PTSD and what it was, what it meant, why do I have it. And little by little I slowly learned.

But what did I look for in a thread title? It didn't really hit me until this morning.
I was looking for "CORE" questions. Because, what I was dealing with and saw other people struggling with as well, were questions and concerns revolving around "PERSONAL CORE ISSUES AND STRUGGLES". And all this time I was looking for these titles that touched on my own "PERSONAL CORE STRUGGLES" but I wasn't "CONSCIOUSLY" "AWARE OF THAT".

And, whenever I post, in case you haven't noticed, I do have a lot to say, BUT, that is because of my "PERSONAL CORE HISTORY". And for every post that I make in reply to another's question, "PART OF THEIR QUESTION IS A QUESTION THAT I HAVE TOO IN SOME WAY". And, my personal history, my personal "CORE" has had a lot to do with addressing the "ISSUES OF OTHERS" on many different levels, including a level where I had to learn a lot "JUST TO SURVIVE".

I do not know you Ygre23 on a personal level. But I have come to know others on a personal level here and I have also taken the time to pay attention to not only "THEIR CORE ISSUES", but, "THE MANY DIFFERNENT LITTLE THINGS THEY SAY THAT TELL ME THEIR PERSONAL STRUGGLE". And because of my own "LIFE STRUGGLES" I can often feel where that person is, and understand where that person is. And I can also see how others are often "MISUNDERSTOOD" because of the way they struggle. And one thing I DO know is that I TOO have been misunderstood many times in my life. Other people have often "ASSUMED I WAS SOMETHING THAT I WAS NOT".

And to be honest? When you wrote that criticism about some people thinking they are superior in their posts, I did wonder if you were talking about me. And I did not wonder that because I feel superior in any way, I wondered that because I have been accused of that in my past and I do know that it was not "MY ISSUE" BUT "SOMEONE ELSES ISSUE" that presented that opinion. And I had to learn that in very "UNPLEASANT WAYS".

I do not wish to stand in judgement of you Ygre23, and I do not know you nor have I been following your "PERSONAL JOURNEY" here at PC. But the statement you made in your thread was pretty "HARSH". And, I think you really have to consider "WHERE YOU ARE WHILE MAKING THIS STATEMENT".

Do you really follow the little statements that are made here and there that represent significant clues about the members here? Well, you may not know how to do that, it may be something you need to think about, something you overlook and are not really consciously aware of it. I have had to do just that for as long as I can remember, not in a very nice way, so maybe I am more astute than you are. But, when anyone comes forward and states a condition, disorder, issue, personal struggle, I have to consider and "RESPECT" the admissions of what that person is becoming aware of that is their own "PERSONAL FAULTS or BAD HABITS or ANYTHING THEY KNOW THEY ARE DOING WRONG SOMEHOW". Because, to me, that is a "BIG DEAL" and it tells me that someone is "TRYING TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO OVERCOME THEIR OWN FAULTS OR MISPERCEPTIONS OR LACK OF ABILITY ON ANY SOCIAL LEVEL".

And I "HAVE" and "WILL CONTINUE TO STATE THAT I TOO AM A PERSON IN REPAIR AND I ALREADY KNOW I AM STRUGGLING TOO AND THAT I AM NOT PERFECT IN ANY WAY OR WISH TO CONSIDER THAT I AM ABOVE ANY OTHER PERSON WHO ALSO IS STRUGGLING". I will make efforts to defend my personal core, but I do consider as much as possible the core issues of the other member here at PC. And if I am somehow presented with a statement that I have offended another person in some way, I do try to find out what I said or did that caused that to happen. And I do try to make an effort to come to an understanding with that other person. Does it always come out well? No, but I at least try to make that effort for both me and that other person. And the only other thing I will do is defend someone who is trying to address their issue and somehow they are picked on, because I don't like that, everyone deserves to "TRY".

So, perhaps you can reread your statement that I did point out earlier and really think about what that statement means in a place where it is well known that everyone here is addressing "PERSONAL CORE ISSUES".

Again, I do not know you, nor am I standing in judgement of you as a person Ygre23, and I am sure that you struggle with your own personal issues as well, but I am questioning your statement and it's harshness.

Open Eyes