Hi amiee

I didn't reply to your message at first because I knew what I wanted to say but didn't know how to say it. Anna put it all down PERFECTLY. I'm glad that you like her advice.

There are two EXCELLENT things that you are doing for yourself right now. Seeing a counselor to get you the help you need is a must. You have recognized that the problem is not that there is something wrong with you, but rather something wrong with your ex that has caused you a lot of grief. A counsellor will help you work through that and get your strength and self confidence back.

The second great thing is reading Anna's post over and over. You were filled with a lot of false, negative messages by your ex. One great way to "fix" that is to repeat positive messages to replace the negative ones. Some people even like to say these affirmations out loud to reinforce them. In fact that is one of the coping skills that I learned in therapy and it doesn help.

Good luck and keep posting here! There is a great community of caring people here who understand and can share your pain and support you while you are working on rebuilding yourself.

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